something i failed to mention in my earlier post was that his parole officer said that IF he quit missing his monday night classes and IF he started going to NA / AA meetings on his own and IF he gets a job right away, that she will make the recommendation for him to continue on ISP (intensive supervised parole) rather than going back to the half way house.
he has to grow up and make his own decisions. he HAS to do this on his own. i can't help him any longer. i can listen and be supportive emotionally, but there is nothing i can do for him. he has to choose to go to classes. he has to choose to go to NA meetings. he has to choose to get (and keep) a job. all of this is on him.
the things that i will be giving him are things i don't care if i lose IF he ends up going back to a half-way house. his girlfriend is willing to take the items but if she doesn't, then it's fine. i'm ok with that.
i did not need this stress this week. he is meeting with his parole officer as we speak (he had to be there at 8:00am) so i guess i will find out in a few hours what's up.
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You're right, it is up to him to do the right thing. He is old enough to stand on his own two feet. He is old enough to make his own decisions and suffer the consequences for the bad ones - just like the rest of us. Try not to worry, you have a couple of us who are willing to talk to him if he gets lonely. We will try to point him in the right direction if we see/hear that is headed for the wrong one. As a mother I know it is tough to just let go. But you're not really letting go, you're just loosening the grip. You're doing the right thing so hang in there!
ReplyDeletethank you girl. i needed that pep talk. thanks for being there for me and for him. i love you tons.
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